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This has been a really tough week for me. I feel like I have done nothing but get on to Aaron. I don’t know what it is? He has been getting in trouble on the bus this week. I honestly think the bus driver has a lot to do with it, I’m not too happy with the bus driver. But, I did find out that Aaron has been misbehaving on the bus. He lied to me about it so that is what really started it all. It just seems like it went down hill from there. I just got to where I was nit-picking at him on everything. His room was not clean, his closet was not clean, he was not picking up after himself, so on and so on. The poor kid just couldn’t do anything without me right there getting on to him. Thursday was the worst day. The bus director called the house and they had reviewed the video tape from the bus. They told us everything that he had been doing. I was really upset because he had lied again. I lost it, and Aaron told me that he didn’t like living in the house because it was a mean house. Man, did that hurt! I was in the kitchen looking out the back door, crying of course, and here comes Aaron. He sees me crying and then he starts crying. I see him cry, because I’m crying, so I start crying even more. So we sat down right there on the floor, the hard floor I might add, and we cried together.

I remember my father always telling me that sometimes people just need to cry. If I ever needed to cry that I could come to him and we could both cry together. I took him up on that several times. I remember being in high school and I told dad that I needed to cry. I sat in his lap hugging him and cried.

Back to Aaron, so we talked about things. He wanted to know why I was crying and I told him. I had to let him know that telling the truth was so important, even if we knew it was going to get us into trouble, we always had to tell the truth. I had to let him know that it hurts mommy and daddy when they lie, and it is very disrespectful. What did I learn out of all this, sometimes it really doesn’t help to punish, punish, and more punish. If I just sit down and talk with my kids, see what is really going on in their heads. I am not saying that I will let them get away with doing wrong…nope, not at all, but it was like I was just finding things that he was doing wrong, just to do it. No reason what so ever….and that is WRONG! I also learned that my bond with my son is bigger and stronger than I know. This little bundle of joy loves me so much and looks up to me like you wouldn’t believe. That is powerful!

Aaron, I love you my son!