Tag Archive for 'Melanie Barnes'

Our 10 Year Anniversary

Wow, it has already been 10 years that Melanie and I have been married.  Totally AWESOME!!!  I thought I would attempt to write a poem for her.  Check it out at Word Junkies.

4 days in Hobbs, NM

So, the family and I are in Hobbs, NM visiting family on my side. It has been awhile since I have seen my Grandma and Grandpa, this would be the kids great grand parents. The wind has been blowing something awful here. I took some pictures of it all, the “haze” is actually dust and sand in the air. Let me tell you, Melanie and I both REALLY miss home right now because of the dust. We forgot how the “West Texas” dust is. Poor Melanie’s allergies are just really getting to her. However, it is so wonderful to see the family again. The kids are having such a great time hanging out with their cousin Emily. Emily is my sisters daughter. Anyways, here are the pictures.

Melanie’s Dad, James - Update

They went to the doctor this morning and they diagnosed James with Meniere’s Disease….causes sometimes violent vertigo, visual disturbance, nausea and vomiting (explanation thanks to my friend Chris).  He got grounded from driving his truck until he gets better.  He is a truck driver.  Thank you all for  your prayers!!!

Melanie’s Dad, James

Melanie got a call today that her dad may have had a stroke the other day, or it could be a really bad inner ear infection.  How the doctors came up with that, not sure?  Anyways, she is going to be with them for the doctor visit tomorrow at 9:30am.  Please be praying for a safe travel for Melanie and for her dad.  Her dad is a very good man!

Melanie is AWESOME - Africa Mission Trip

So here is the deal. I was suppose to have $2100 and change ready by April 1st so I can get my airfare for the Africa Mission Trip. We finally got that money and was ready to write the check when I got another email a couple of days ago saying that the price has changed to $2631, if I pay this week. Well, I don’t have $2631. Melanie and I did our taxes and we are getting back some money and now plan on using that to help pay for this, but I am not sure if we are going to get it in time. I wrote a blog about the Mission Trip and money and not stressing, but that is easier said than done sometimes. So, of course me being me, I started to stress out again. I talked to my mom about it yesterday and she basically told me to “chill out” and God was going to take care of it all. (I love my mom, she always has a way with word when it comes to me.) So, I chilled out and decided things would be OK.

Here is where Melanie comes into the picture. She comes home today and starts crying. Says that she has to talk to me. If you read a couple of post back about her selling her sewing machine. She put $1000 towards the mission trip, $1000 towards her parents 50 year anniversary, and $1000 towards our 10 year anniversary. We were going to renew our “love for each other!” So she tells me that she is being selfish and that we don’t have to prove our love to each other or anyone else. This Africa Mission Trip is more important to her than us spending $1000 on “proving” our love to each other and everyone else. We both know that we love each other….why spend $1000 on it? So she is paying the rest of the amount so we can write a check next week. All I can say is WOW!!! God is an AWESOME God and my wife is an AWESOME wife.

Not with all that said…this $2631 is not all the money that we have to come up with. I STILL NEED HELP!!! HELP…HELP…HELP!!! If you want to know more, look at my other blogs in the “mission trip” category. If you want to call me and talk about it, please email me at joe@suprajoe.com and I will email you my phone number. If you want to send money via paypal…here is my paypal account: joe@suprajoe.com. It doesn’t matter if it is $5 dollars or $50 dollars. This money is going to help send me and a team to DR Congo. I am going to setup a computer lab for a Methodist Seminary. You should really read the other blogs.

God Bless Your Day!!!

Family Fun

I don’t use film cameras anymore because I have a really nice Canon digital SLR camera. I am selling my Canon film camera so I got it out the other day and noticed that we still had film in it that needed to be used. This is what we did with it. Enjoy!!

Hot Hearts 2008

We were at Hot Hearts this past weekend and it was so awesome. We had junior and senior high students go. It was at Highland Lakes Camp. There were about 500 students from all around that attended Hot Hearts. 33 Miles Christian band was there and they ROCKED the house!!! It was an awesome experience for me because I got to know a couple of the junior high kids a little bit better. I made some connections with them that I hadn’t been able to make before. All I can say about that is God really blessed me this past weekend. Melanie was there as well and she had a great time. It was awesome to get to experience something like that with my wife. It got a little crazy at night though. The room we were in had around 30 bunk beds and they all had someone sleeping in them. I had to get out my trusty iPhone and my noise canceling headphones and I was set. I didn’t hear a thing. Which was good because I know the boys had a blast yelling back and forth….and I didn’t have to hear it. NOTE: those of you looking at sponsoring at a youth camp, look at getting these headphone - Etymotic Research, Inc. - you will not be disappointed. The highlight of the trip, we had 6 students in our group that accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior. THANK YOU JESUS!!!!

I would like to ask you to please pray for our youth.  Pray that the ones who have accepted Christ, walk with Him, and the ones that are still searching, find Him.

Britney’s Story

This is the story of a strong and beautiful little girl who has overcome so much in her short life, seen the light at the end of the tunnel, and is walking through it. Britney was born in 2000, a very sweet, happy and laid back child. Aside from a little colic in the first few months she was what I considered at that time normal….This started changing about the time she hit two. I can’t think of any one incident that triggered it, but the happy laid back child I was used to started to disappear. Of course at the time I just thought that it was the terrible twos. She is my oldest so there was no one to compare her to (not that children can be compared I’ve since learned.) She started throwing fits and being very angry and aggressive. She would not just get mad; there was pure hate in her eyes. She was in a constant state of frustration and irritability. I had my second child by then and so I’m sure I was so busy with him that I played down these behaviors when I should have paid more attention to the growing problems. She started being obsessive about certain things like shapes and numbers and lining things up. I just assumed this was because she was really smart. Of course every parent is proud to have a “brilliant” child to brag about. Things pretty much stayed the same until she was three and a half. One morning I accidentally set off the alarm system and couldn’t get it off for several minutes and when I finally did that look of pure hate was now pure terror. She wouldn’t go under our smoke detectors unless someone was holding her hand.

We moved a couple months later and during the move while staying in a hotel, some idiot jerk decided it would be fun to set off the alarm at 2:00 am. So here my husband and I are lugging two children down five flights of stairs with alarms blaring and lights flashing and all I could think was here we go again. It was at least two years before she could go into any room without locating every smoke detector and pointing it out to whoever would listen. When she went to a restaurant or someone’s house the first thing she asked (no kidding) was do you have a smoke alarm and how many do you have? She was completely obsessed and not in a good way. Meanwhile in the two years, we moved into a new house and her problems started increasing. She became really hyper. Not jut running and jumping but she would climb on something like the top of the refrigerator or a counter or buffet table at a store or restaurant and when you would tell her to get down you could see in her expression that she didn’t realize that she had even climbed up. By the time she was four, she had busted her head open twice requiring stitches and staples and had broken her collar bone. All because she did things without thinking it through first. She would cry for one or two minutes and then she was fine. She had the highest pain tolerance of anyone I know. I found out later that the pain tolerance is another symptom. When she was about four she started sniffing. I thought she just had allergies or a dry nose. Yes I know I was always downplaying everything. She had this very annoying “habit” for a few months and then she just stopped. Only to pick up new habits like smelling and blowing on her hands and hiking her leg every few steps and of course I played it off as maybe she had a yeast infection. The hand sniffing and blowing I had no clue about but in the back of my head I started thinking Tourettes.

About this time she went and stayed for three weeks with my in laws. This was the longest she had ever been away. When I would talk to my Mother I law she told me that Britney was just being so mean and they had to get onto her for some of the strange noises and movements she was doing. I asked them to be patient and that I was starting to think that it couldn’t be helped. That’s when I started remembering back to my childhood and how I would do little vocal things and I was always told that I could stop if I really wanted to. As an adult I learned to control it so I had never made the connection between us. When I went to get my daughter after the three weeks she ran out of the house and hugged me. Within five minutes she had at least nine ticks going. I was floored. My mother in law told me that she hadn’t been doing them all till she saw me. (I later learned that they will tick more when they are comfortable and I was comfort for her so she unleashed them. When I got her home I found a neurologist and took her to see him. He diagnosed her with mild Tourettes and said that they didn’t treat cases as mild as hers. I was very upset because I didn’t want her to start school with seven or eight ticks and be made fun of. At this same time she started school, she started complaining of noises bothering her and certain fabrics would send her into a rage along with other strange things. There are too many to list here but I can send you a list of them if you are interested. She almost got kicked off her bus because she couldn’t sit still or be quiet. And she would come in from school so mad and all I could think of was that it was from all the noise on the bus ride home. I had been researching all of her symptoms on the internet and had come up with ADHD, Tourettes, OCD, and sensory integration disorder. I tried to test some of her sensory symptoms by picking her up after school and only dressed her in knit. We cut off her waist long hair because she couldn’t stand to have it brushed and I noticed her rage calming down a bit. She still had her tics and was WAY to hyper but at least one little thing wasn’t ruining hers and our whole day. I took her for a second opinion and found a great neurologist just for children who put her on Tenex for her tics and it slowed them down as well as her. At least she wasn’t driving herself crazy by moving so fast. She had been moving much faster than her brain could react. The only drawbacks were that she was falling asleep in school and also her symptoms were being covered but she still had Tourettes, ADHD, OCD, and SID. I couldn’t imagine my poor baby living her life like this. There had to be something more.

Then in August of 2006, we found our best hope yet. Dr. Kendall Stewart. I had heard that this Dr. had a different approach to treat the causes not just cover the symptoms. I made an appt and got her in 3 months later. They performed hearing and balance tests on her and told us that yes she did have sensory integration disorder and that they could treat it and she would be off all medications within a year. I can’t explain all of the terminology that’s where the Dr., his website, and his literature come in. I decided to go for it. I knew that the mostly natural treatments wouldn’t hurt her even if they didn’t cure her. He thinks that all of these diagnosis’ are symptoms of a virus in the brain and that you have to draw out the virus and kill it to get rid of the symptoms. We went through some really strange things like metal testing and at one time I remember thinking this crazy Dr. just wants my money but I kept telling myself that I owed it to my daughter to see it through to the year mark. She started out taking two medications. One to draw out the virus and another to kill the virus after it was drawn out. After testing her for metals it showed that she had an abnormally high level of tin in her system. this could either be caused from being exposed to a high amount of it which i doubt, or it could be that her system doesn’t get rid of it like normal bodies do. She was put on two medications to cleanse her system and another to keep her from having yeast infections because the other two could cause them. After about 5 months the ticks pretty much stopped and we noticed her night terrors and sleeplessness were reduced along with a lot of her sensory problems. She was able to ride the bus home after school without raging. She did start this annoying habit that the Dr. called stemming. which is like a tic but different because she can stop when you tell her to. It is a comfort thing because she had ticked for so long. It was hard to start telling her not to make a noise when for so long we were told to ignore the ticks. But we bribed her with a hamster and after a couple of months she just stopped one day.

Now she is completely off her meds including the one for tics which also helped with the ADHD and although she is a naturally hyper child it is not the same as not being able to control your speed and your actions. You would honestly never know that she ever had any of her problems. Dr. Stewart was really a Godsend. She has been tested three times (hearing and balance tests) and every time you can see on the graphs that the different areas of her brain are starting to work together. It’s like before she was floating in space and now it has all come together. I just remember crying and anguishing and praying to god for an answer and he sent us Dr. Stewart. Now this may not be the answer for everyone but I think you owe it to your self or your child to at least go onto his website and if you want more info I can send it to you through the mail. He now has centers in five states and recently got funding which means people are starting to take notice of what this amazing Dr. is doing.
The website is www.neurosensorycenters.com

Please feel free to email me at Melanie@stitchin4kids.com if you have any questions or if you just want to share your story.

UPDATE:

After much research and talking to other parents, I have come to believe that immunizations and some of the preservatives in them are what caused Britney’s problems. I have also found out that even though she is well, there is a chance that she could regress if she gets any kind of infection. Because of this, we have to put her back on her medications for a couple of weeks if she starts to get sick.

Also she takes a micronutrient along with MB12 nasal spray just to keep things going smoothly. The MB12 nasal spray has really helped calm her down and has basically balanced her system out.

Anyone who has been diagnosed with ADHD should really look into this spray. It is wonderful!!

We go back to the DR. in June and I will continue to update periodically when I get the chance. Thank you to everyone who has read this and has passed it on.